Friday, April 8, 2011

Chapter 2 -- 6 hour phone call.

6 hour phone call.

As you can imagine the thought of E having a girlfriend didn’t sit well with me. I was at a loss, I didn’t know how to handle the situation anymore. I was torn. One part of me knew that if we continued talking and getting to know each other I was on a dangerous (and also wrong) path to getting hurt or hurting someone else. The other part of me (the hopeless romantic with a strong belief in “movie” love part) thought that maybe he was the “one.” That there was a reason we met and connected the way we did.

So what did I do?

E and I continued to get to know each other. We talked everyday, he told me about his girlfriend - he never hid it from me. Which I respected to an extent, but I also knew at the same time that I was treading on thin ice. {As a side note - I do not condone the behavior of E and I. But as I have come to learn, none of us are perfect and there is no such thing as “perfect timing.” I have many other thoughts on this and situations similar - but you have to wait for those. Continue reading at your own risk.}

Anyhow, E and his girlfriend, C, weren’t doing too well (shocking, I know!). They had been having issues long before he and I ever met.

{Theory #1 - You don’t just happen to meet and become attracted to another person without reason. If you are married, dating, or in some sort of relationship and you meet someone else that you can’t stop thinking about - there’s a reason. And it’s not always the obvious one (sex). It’s that something is missing in your current relationship; whether it be a deep emotional connection, someone to be silly with, someone to enjoy the same activities as you, a spiritual connection, or even a sexual connection. Something is missing. And when you by chance meet someone who fulfills that missing piece - it’s hard to tear yourself away. Essentially, you want to have your cake and eat it too. You don’t want to leave the person you’re with because they’re so important to you, but this new person is so intriguing. It becomes complicated, and in all honesty, you can’t really judge the situation until you are placed in it. Until you know that feeling.}

E and I would spend hours upon hours on the phone each night. We quickly became best friends. We had an instant connection and it ran deep. I knew it was only a matter of time before it became that complicated situation that I was talking about - and it did. Quickly. After a few months of talking to him daily, I started to develop feelings for him. Yes, I should have ran right then and there. But I didn’t. Throughout the next 365 days, 12 months, 1 year we went through a lot of rocky moments. We fought, we laughed, we cried, we kissed (and that was the moment I knew).

“Knew what?” You ask… I guess you are just going to have to come back to find out. So if you haven’t judged me too harshly and are still interested in the story, check back. Pour another glass of wine. (I think I need one too!)

Have a good weekend kids!

Love always.


  1. Dun Dun Dun! {Dramatic Music} Loves it! :)

  2. Oh I know all too well the complicated situation thing! Mine started that way for sure & I hate when people judge us! [Luckily, it's ending with a white dress & bling ring tho! ;) We showed the critics for sure.]


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